I didn't kill myself.
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Thank goodness for that! Was it that bad? Glad you're here with us.
Mrs Smith
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Positive changes in your life since leaving WBTS
by Mrs Smith infor me it's the friendships i have made with people that would have been considered too wordly to be friends with while i was still a jw.
leaving behind the guilt of never been good enough or doing enough.
celebrating the birthday of my precious children making them feel like king and queen for the day.
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I have spoke once to my parents..
by mrsjones5 inin the last year.
some of you may remember a little bit of what happened last year when my family and i went to visit my parents - big fiasco, cops were called and we were thrown out - so i just had no desire to have any interaction with my parental units.
i don't call, they've called a few times to speak to the kids (they called it checking on them like i'm some deranged person).
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Mrs Smith
They can call you. Unless you really want to see them and mend fences?
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Positive changes in your life since leaving WBTS
by Mrs Smith infor me it's the friendships i have made with people that would have been considered too wordly to be friends with while i was still a jw.
leaving behind the guilt of never been good enough or doing enough.
celebrating the birthday of my precious children making them feel like king and queen for the day.
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Mrs Smith
I just got a promotion at work today (from grunt to management
Congratulations!! I'm really happy for you.
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Who has my Joie d'vivre ? I demand it back right now!!
by Crumpet inwarning: don't read this if you are easily depressed!.
here's how it is for me right now - no frills:.
its pants, sh*t, black, doom, gloom and don't spare the melancholy (pronounced mel-ankley if you are me).. what's brought this on?
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Mrs Smith
Hi Little Crumpet
Sending you all my good thougths and energy today! (well, I actually said a prayer for you but I know you don't believe in that , I don't know how else to send you good wishes.)
Have a beautiful day.
XXX
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Positive changes in your life since leaving WBTS
by Mrs Smith infor me it's the friendships i have made with people that would have been considered too wordly to be friends with while i was still a jw.
leaving behind the guilt of never been good enough or doing enough.
celebrating the birthday of my precious children making them feel like king and queen for the day.
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Mrs Smith
The reason I started this topic is two fold. Firstly it seems like many here have been feeling a bit blue lately and I thought this thread will cheer them up a bit. Secondly lurkers out there have to know that we are getting on with our lives and are happy about leaving the WBTS and are not living in the past with the "poor me I was a JW" syndrome. Please keep the positive posts coming.
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Fading With Children
by Paralipomenon ini have, for the most part successfully faded.
no elders calling, my parents know i don't attend meetings, but have a don't ask/don't tell policy.
they don't ask if i went to a meeting, i don't tell them i haven't.
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Mrs Smith
Hi Sweet Pea
I have a funny story about this. We don't often see my parents as they live far from us. About two and a half years ago they came to visit us for a two week holiday. I did not have leave for the first week of their visit but my kids were already on school holyday and so would be spending time with their garndparents without our supervision. I had told them not to say anything to them about birthdays and church etc. My mother however asked my son if we go to meetings to which my daughter only 7 years old at the time answered "yes, we go to church all the time". When I got home from work my mom looked really P**sed Off!! My son called me into the bedroom and told me what happened. I decided to wait until my mom said something about it but she never did. The next day she was back to her cheerful self and to this day has never mentioned the incident.
The only concern for me was that my son and daughter both felt like they had done something wrong. I had to explain to them that we have to live our lives the way we want and it has nothing to do with anyone else. I have stopped telling my kids what they can and cannot say to their JW relatives. So far both sets of parents know that we have faded and that we attened a Christian church and neither of them have spoken to the elders about it.
I think both my hubby and my parents can see that this is what we have chosen for our family and if they want to have any contact with the children they had better tow the line. If they decided to shun us they must realise that it's their decision and not ours to cut contact.
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Putting off having kids?
by sweet pea init seems to me there may be some of you out there who have not had kids due to the situation where you are not of the same mind as your partner in wanting to bring them up as witnesses.
thinking back to besty and i before we had the two boys, i remember being of two minds - do i?
i was concerned that besty wasn't a spiritual head and he had even categorically stated that if we did have kids they wouldn't end up being witnesses.
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Mrs Smith
I have the same experience and found that it was when my second child was born that we started finding very difficult to go to all the meetings etc. I was working full time my son was 5 years old and between children, breast feeding and housework there was not enough hours in the day to get everything done. So we started missing more and more meetings. The more meetings we missed the more the elders put pressure on us, the more I didn't want to go. One day I told my hubby that I was tired of trying to be the perfect wife, mother and JW. If going to as many meetings as humanly possible was not good enough for the elders that I just wouldn't go any more. That was the begining of the end.
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I am going to TRY and leave JWD for the time being!
by AK - Jeff ini am an addict.
and that is one good reason to back off some.
but the overriding reason is that my nerves have been frayed lately by the actions of a hidden 'stalker', a jw who is hiding behind a cyber-curtain.
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Mrs Smith
You will be missed!
Anyone here involved with wicca that can put a nasty spell on this starker?
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Positive changes in your life since leaving WBTS
by Mrs Smith infor me it's the friendships i have made with people that would have been considered too wordly to be friends with while i was still a jw.
leaving behind the guilt of never been good enough or doing enough.
celebrating the birthday of my precious children making them feel like king and queen for the day.
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Mrs Smith
For me it's the friendships I have made with people that would have been considered too wordly to be friends with while I was still a JW. Leaving behind the guilt of never been good enough or doing enough. Celebrating the birthday of my precious children making them feel like king and queen for the day. Giving my hubby his first ever birthday party at the age of 40! (This was a really moving experience for all our friends and family) Knowing that I have the right to ask questions and use my intelligence regarding any topic. Knowing that being a woman does not mean that I am a lesser being.
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Long time members, how do you cope with so much tragedy on this forum?
by PEC ini have only been here for six months and i can see why so many people have to leave or at least take breaks from this forum.. what are you doing to cope?
i want to stay, please help.
pm me if needed.. philip.
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Mrs Smith
Some stories on this forum pull at my heart strings for sure. Some days I just cannot cope with reading the more tragic post and steer clear of them. One the whole though I feel that we need each other and to just post a little message on someones tragic thread makes us feel like we are not alone. There is a lot of compasion and understanding on this forum and I try to focus on that rather than let the stories get me down. At least people posting here have left the WBTS behind. Most of us that have left or faded are having a lot of postive changes in our lives.